and by that i mean literally, beat them….because people frown upon parents beating the shit out of bullies.
a bully boy (one i mentioned years ago who growled at Rafael in Kindergarten right in front of me and his young mom) who over the years has threatened Rs guy friends, said ‘ill kill you’ to people, including her, picked fights, etc. is now in her class.
we avoided him because after the dynamic in K, they put him in another track. we have been dealing with him off and on during recess, at lunch…when he does the aforementioned, sends his minions to her saying ’ X likes you’ and ‘X hates your mother’.
so when we heard he was moving we were…um… elated to say the least. well, false alarm. the move didn’t work out and he was placed in Rs class.
"mom, my heart is hurting," she said when she got off the bus last week.
the teacher is a bad ass so i feel confident she can keep an eye. but the strange twist is he sent a minion to say, ‘X knows he cussed and stuff at you but he wants to be your friend’. he has been complimenting her and is trying to be nice, even though is is “sassy and rude to the teacher” R says.
so i came up with the idea to have Hubby visit R at lunch today and ask the boy to join them at the table under the guise of “if you want to be Rs friend, then we must get to know you because we know all her friends”. but really, “hey, did you know i’m an ex-cop and i am very present in my daughter’s life?” was the subtext.
i asked Hubby how it went. “Good. He seemed shocked he was asked so i told him, ‘well, when you are nice to people you get invited to things like this and play dates and birthday parties.”
"it’s only been a week but i’m trying," the boy said. "I have a peaceful place i try to go to. i am working it."
methinks this is progress. but i still don’t trust him.